LIES YOU TELL YOURSELF

Mistakes will happen, its almost certain. You’ll err at one time or the other. For some it’ll be easy to come out from others, not quite so.

You make mistakes either important/significant or not depending on how you let them define your existence.

Your reactions can either magnify the negativity or help you turn that misstep into something productive.

Negative reactions aren’t good, they are unrealistic, unnecessary and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiral that can be very difficult to pull out of.

All reactions are driven by important values that you hold about yourself. It plays an understated but powerful role in a success story because it can either spur you forward to achieve your goals or hold you back.

As Henry Ford said, “He who believes he can and he who believes he cannot are both correct.”

The thing here is, if you want to be a top performer,you need to build on your ability to recognize and control negative reactions so that it doesn’t prevent you from reaching your full potential.

When it comes to beliefs, over time i’ve discovered six common, yet toxic, theories that hold people back more than any others.

Be mindful of your tendencies to fall for these theories or beliefs:

Harmful theory #1: Perfection = Success

Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure, and end up spending so much time lamenting what you failed to accomplish, instead of ENJOYING and BUIDING on what you were able to achieve.

Toxic Belief #2: I “Always” or “Never” Do That

There isn’t anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behavior in terms of “always” or “never” is a form of self-pity.

It makes you believe that you have no control of yourself and will never change. Don’t fall for it.

Harmful theory #3: My Destiny Is Predetermined

Far too many people agree to the highly irrational idea that they are destined to succeed or fail and so they don’t do certain things or do too much of certain things.

Make no mistake about it, your destiny is in your own hands.

Blaming multiple successes or failures on forces beyond your control is nothing more than a failure in itself.

Sometimes life will deal you difficult cards to play, and others times you have the it all under control. Your willingness to be the best at every point determines your ultimate success or failure in life.

Harmful theory #4: I Succeed When Others Approve of Me

Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain — you’re never as good or bad as they say you are. It’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but you can take people’s opinions with a grain of salt.

That way, no matter what people think about you, your self-worth comes only from within (humility grows).

…finally;

Harmful Theory #5: My Past = My Future

Repeated failures can erode your self-confidence and make it hard to believe you’ll achieve a better outcome in the future.

Most of the time, these failures result from taking risks and trying to achieve something that isn’t easy. Just remember that success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure.

Anything worth achieving is going to require you to take some risks, and you can’t allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.

Till next week, always remember that failure is not the only punishment for laziness, another is having to watch others succeed.

#dailydose™ • @idealnathan • BB pin – 334015E5

Nathan Adeolu.

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